I’ve encountered many predators throughout my life.
Somehow, the deeper commonalities between them escaped me until last year.
Last year, I started developing a personal theory about power:
Power is the ability to define “we,”
and have your definition enforced.
I’d read Gavin de Becker’s The Gift of Fear many years before I began developing this theory. I was well aware that “forced teaming” is one of seven tactics used by persuasion predators to coax potential victims into ignoring their survival instincts.
Somehow, despite multiple encounters with various predators sexual and non-sexual, I’d spent my life believing “forced teaming” was limited to predation that culminated itself in sexual assault.
It took me weeks reflecting on a profoundly uncomfortable situation last year to realize that sexual assault is not itself the core objectification in assault, but rather one horrific expressed consequence of it: Continue reading “MeToo, still.”